You know that saying “don’t kill my vibe”? I know it’s just a trendy phrase these days, but if you really think about it, how often do you let people kill your vibe? Can you remember the last time you were having a fabulous day and it was just dumped on by someone who couldn’t stop complaining? I mean, we all do it. We all complain and have our days, but there is a way to turn away from the negative and focus on what’s going right, what’s good.
A bad vibe doesn’t even have to be brought on by an outside party though. How often are you having a great day, riding along, listening to your favorite tunes, when all the sudden you think of something negative, or maybe you remember suddenly that you’re a day late on a bill? It happens quite often for me. I have such a busy life, so many things going on all at once most of the time, that I easily forget things. It’s nothing to fret over though, I have totally had to teach myself to not sweat the small stuff. What’s the worst that can happen as a result of that negative thought? Chances are you’ve made up some massive failure of an epoch in your mind as to what exactly that result will be.
Whatever your demons are telling you, whatever bad thoughts creep up on you, let it go. If it doesn’t fall under the category of things that make you smile, then get rid of it. Think about your favorite song, a pleasant memory, a peaceful place, but don’t waste your time letting destructive thoughts linger.
I was watching a movie the other day called The Iron Lady. I heard the most beautiful, relevant quote I have ever heard in my life while watching this movie:
“Watch your thoughts, they become words;
watch your words, they become actions;
watch your actions, they become habits;
watch your habits, they become character;
watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”
The origin of the quote is unbeknownst to me, but it’s accuracy is unbelievable. If you really think about it, how true is this? How often have you harbored a horrible thought for so long that it physically affected you or your mood? I can only speak for myself here, and I can concur that this has happened to me more often than I care to admit. For a long time, and sometimes to this day, I felt as though I was just an angry person. I wasn’t even trying to control my thoughts or pray about them. It takes a long time to identify the reason for your unhappiness, but more often than not, you are the reason for your own unhappiness. You are the one who chooses you environment. You choose to hang out with the people you hang out with. You choose to be a jealous person. You choose to stay in your relationship. You choose your thoughts, actions, words, and ultimately, your destiny. No one around us is responsible for our unhappiness except for us.
Once you’ve figured out why you’re unhappy, it’s much easier to stay clear of those things. Hold tight to the things that make you smile, because whatever it is that makes you smile is the same thing that makes you, you. And nothing is more positive than staying true to oneself.